Monday, January 28, 2008

Boys will piss on boys

According to multiple sources of mine, there were hazing incidents with high school ice hockey team of a nearby town.

Apparently, a bunch of the team "leaders" knocked one of the kids down in the showers and collectively urinated on him.

The victim didn't say anything to anyone, presumably because of the humiliation. But one of the other kids, observing but not participating, told his parents and word quickly spread. The "leaders" did other things to the victim but this was the worst. They allegedly committed similar acts against other players on the team. Or should I say "team."

The victim's mom made the coach aware of the incident with her son and demanded action. She would've accepted the perpetrators (I suppose I should say alleged perpetrators, for legal reasons) being suspended for a few games each.

Instead, the punishment was the kids had to skate laps.

ALL of the kids, not just the alleged perpetrators. Including the victim.

(And even though it shouldn't matter, the team is horrible... not surprisingly considering the "team bonding" activities. It was 1-14 on the year so far. So it's not like suspending these kids would have prevented them from their inevitable state championship.)

The victim's mom was angry at the coach's inaction so she went to the athletic director. The AD pooh-poohed her complaint with the incomprehensibly stupid comment that these things have been going on for a while.

By this point, the mother is livid and went further up the administrative food chain.

After an amazingly quick investigation (for a school district that's ridiculously dysfunctional... but that's another entry), they find out that this sort of thing had been going on repeatedly. Just as the athletic director admitted.

The manure hit the ventilator, as they say.

It hasn't hit the local media yet but I'm sure it will in the next few days.

According to my sources, the alleged perpetrators were kicked off the team and suspended them from school for a week. Because the coach wouldn't deal with it himself as the mother had wanted, state law kicked in once it got to the higher ups. This will go on their permanent record.

Between the kids kicked off the team and the kids who were pulled off the team by disgusted parents, there were only seven kids left. So the team's season is apparently over*.

In a sane world, people would applaud the administrators for standing up for decency and the town's and school's honor by punishing deviant behavior. In a sane town, people would applaud administrators for demanding their athletes respect the code of conduct that EACH AND EVERY ONE OF THEM (and their parents!!!) signed.

But even in this hardly sane world, this town is less sane than most. This is a town that takes a jackass who was kicked out of a youth soccer league for slamming a kid against a wall and elects him to the school board.

So is it really any surprise that the reactions to the hockey team's demise are: blame the victim; boys will be boys; being pissed on by seven different people is no big deal.

This is not the only thing that makes this school district a disgrace. Every year, I see more examples of this town's idiocy. Last year, I was at a middle school soccer game involving this school and saw scumbag parents berating a ref because he stopped an attacking rush to deal with an injured kid. An injured 12 year old. An injured kid WHO WAS ON THEIR OWN TEAM.

Every year, I see different players on this school's various teams, different coaches, different parents. Yet the unsportsmanlike behavior by all remains the same. There are good people in this town. But the culture of the place is just rotten, nay poisonous.

What is the reaction of one of the parents who maintains the hockey team website:

DO TO THE THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED TO THE TEAM IN THE LAST FEW DAYS, I WILL NOT BE DOING THIS WEB SITE ANYMORE. THE PEOPLE THAT HAVE DISMANTALED THIS TEAM SHOULD THINK ABOUT WHAT THEY HAVE DONE. TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE IT RIGHT. THE WHOLE TEAM IS SUFFERING FOR WHAT WAS A IN MY MIND A HARMLESS ACT. I HAVE BEEN A BULLDOG MY WHOLE LIFE, AND IT HURTS ME TO SEE THINGS LIKE THIS HAPPEN! IF THIS AFENDS ANYONE I AM SORRY FOR THAT , BUT I HAVE SEEN THIS GO ON FOR 7 YEARS NOW AND I AM TIRED OF IT. REMEBER THEY STILL ARE BOY'S

I WISH ALL THE BOYS GOOD LUCK AND HOPE THEY REMEBER WHAT HAPPENED AND LEARN FROM IT.


(note that this is exactly how it was published. maybe the person would've been better served by spending the last 7 years studying grammar and spelling instead of watching hockey)

The victim's mom is now a pariah for blowing the whistle and make sure the right thing is done, for making sure other kids don't suffer what her son got done to him. I'm sure her son is getting crap from his former teammates, as though they were the victims and he was the one who did something wrong.

I knew this was going to happen. It's happened in places with far more class than this town. But it still infuriates me.

There's a certain amount of "boys will be boys" I can accept. Snapping towels at each other. Maybe putting Icy Hot in someone's jock. Fun with Vaseline (it's not what you think... or is it?). This might merit some kind of punishment like laps or whatever but not suspension.

However, there's a line you have to draw. And wherever you draw that line, forcing your bodily waste fluids on someone else is on the wrong side of it.

While you may not be surprised when kids do stupid things, you don't excuse it. You expect the adults to be responsible. Don't demand the kids be sent to the electric chair but insist they accept the consequences like men.

Instead, these idiot parents (not all of them but some of them) are teaching their kids wonderful lessons. Like don't keep your promises... the promises that both the kids AND the parents agreed to in signing the codes of conduct. Like your word means nothing. Like blame someone else when you screw up. Like actions don't have consequences in the real world some of them will be entering in a few months. Like pissing on someone is no big deal. Like COMMITTING A CRIMINAL ACT is no big deal.

Truly the apples don't fall far from the tree. The kids are stupid (and malicious... make no mistake about it, it was a bullying power trip not twisted humor). But as stupid as the kids may be, it's the parents who are the real disgrace.


*-Update: the team's coach told the local paper that the season would continue. So we shall see.

2 comments:

scoop said...

Probably two of the most dysfunctional school districts with problems in sports over the years Ft. Edward and South Glens Falls

Mark said...

Perhaps if the parents of the offenders who think it's no big deal were themselves urinated upon by a group of peers they would feel differently.